The activity, excitement and endless planning that go into a wedding can distract you from understanding the importance of selecting the right home for your life together. Your new home will provide the environment where your life together is played out every day. Mark Nash author of 1001 Tips for Buying and Selling a Home offers bride and grooms to be some dos and donts for making and selecting your first home together.

Dos

-Create independent lists of must-have home features and compare. It can be difficult for newlyweds to find a starting point for joint home parameters. I suggest to my clients each list the top ten features they want in their next home and compare with their spouse. You should have at least five matches and less than five requires a discussion between you before you consider even looking at homes.

-Determining how much square-footage you need. Men and women marry later today and usually have lived and possibly owned a home on their own. Dont think a small place will be romantic; it might be to close for two people stating a life together. A good rule of thumb is to take the square-footage of each of your homes and add together, especially if they worked well for you individually.

-Plan for everyones commuting times. Buyers often overlook both spouses commuting needs for their careers. If you go out to the suburbs and your spouse inherits a long commute along with a new spouse it could be a strain. Your first home most likely wont be forever, so keep in mind neighborhood familiarity, commuting times and proximity to family and friends.

-Consider the needs of your spouses pet. You might have never had a dog or cat, but your spouse does and so will you. Plan ahead for the special needs of a dog that needs to be walked (reconsider high-rises), go to the dog park (a walk or a car-ride away) or a cat that will perch on wide window sills instead of the back of your fabulous couch.

-Look for good resale characteristics. You probably wont stay more than three or four years in your first home together. Look for god resale characteristics and make sure your real estate agent understands that they are at the top of your wish list. Your first investment together should be a positive one. Dont skip a home inspection or using an attorney when you purchase.

-Remember that men today want good closet and bathroom amenities. Plan on adequate closet and vanity space for your husband. Dont short-change his space or it could become a problem later. Agree in advance where his large screen TV will go in your new home. Ditto the barbeque grill, boats, snow boards, etc.

-Send out change of address announcements. Its can be over whelming after all the wedding mail demands to let people know the address and phone number of your new home. I remember some newlyweds recently telling me after all the attention they received before and during their wedding, that now they havent heard much from anyone. I told them to let people know of their new address via a snail mail or email. Tuck a matching change of address into wedding gift thank-you notes.

Donts

-Over spend on your first home together. Its easy today with zero-down payment and interest only mortgages to qualify for more home than you thought was possible. Large monthly payments might eliminate vacations, dining out and furniture purchases. Keep in mind that financial pressures impact marriages new and old alike.

-Forget to disclose financial problems in advance. Marginal credit histories, bankruptcies, under-estimated child support and undisclosed divorces would come up in mortgage applications. Talk with your new spouse before meeting with a mortgage consultant about any of these issues.

-Move in to your spouses home. To get your life together off to the best start, resist moving into one of your homes. Like it or not, its still territorial, either your moving into someone elses space and you feel like a visitor or you feel your space is invaded. No one likes to have their decorating challenged or be regulated to the closet in the guest bedroom.

-Burden yourself with multiple homes. Your home, his home and your new home can be a lot to juggle physically and financially. Try to sell both of your existing homes before you close on your new home together.

-Differ unless you mean it. New marriages take time to establish give and take. If you feel strongly against a proposed paint color, furniture choice or room layout, voice your opinion. Staying silent wont save your marriage, it could disable it.