You have answered a personal ad of the single woman of your dreams. From the description of her ad she seems like a perfect match for you for romance and a possible serious relationship. You write her a letter and anxiously wait to hear back from her. And you wait...and wait...and wait and you never hear from her. So, you wonder what went wrong? Is she rejecting me? Did I say something in my letter that turned her off? Why won't she write back? Most likely you made some common mistakes that turn single women off or caused them to lose interest in you. Listed here are some things that may have gone wrong so you can take corrective measures on the next personal ad you answer: - Your letter was too sexually suggestive. When writing to a woman for the first time, never write anything of a sexual nature. It's a big turn off.
- All you did was brag about yourself, your accomplishments, and your possessions in your letter.
- You forgot to give her your phone number in case she may want to call you instead of writing you back. Some single women prefer to do it this way. If you just write back with your address, she may get letters from guys who include their phone number and she will pass you up in favor of calling them. There's another factor to consider. If you won't give out your phone number, she may think that you are married or living with another woman.
- The letter you sent her looked like it was zeroxed. This is a real big no no.
- You forgot to send her a stamped reply envelope with your letter. A stamped reply envelope helps to ensure an answer back and it shows the woman that you are very thoughtful. This makes a very good impression on single women.
- You forgot to mention what is was in her ad that attracted you to write her. Single women love compliments and they want to know why to chose to write her.
- Your handwriting was very difficult to read. If you have bad handwriting, have your letter typed. If she can't read your writing, your letter is going straight to the trash can.
- Your return address is a post office box and you don't give a phone number in your letter. Without a street address and a phone number, she may become suspicious that you are trying to hide something.
- You screwed up in your letter by calling her "Babe" or "Darling" or "Baby" or "Honey," etc. These words are just too strong to use on a woman you don't even know.
- Your letter was full of typos. Be sure and proof read your letter or have someone else do it. If you have a lot of spelling errors this is going to make you look like a real "dumb ass."
- You mentioned that you like to give or receive massages. This statement has a sexual overtone to it and some women will think that all you have on your mind is sex. Don't mention anything about massages in your first letter to a woman.
- Your letter was written on notebook paper or even worse, the paper is torn. Always use professional looking stationary with matching envelopes when writing to a woman.
- Your letter lacked warmth and was very impersonal.
Well, I hope these tips help you figure out how you screwed up on writing your first letter when answering personal ads of single women. If you will follow these guidelines, it will greatly improve your chances of that "dream girl" writing back to you. |
