Talk to some body that has got some thing rare and very precious. Ask him/her to show you that object. The probability is that it will be postponed for some other day. If you dare to ask whether it is for sale, you may be asked to please walk out. The person is very possessive about that object and does not want it to come in contact with others under any circumstances. Possessive lovers are like that.

In the beginning, the beloved who feels possessed feels very good and elated. She/he thinks that their beloved values them very highly. That is also true. But after some days, they start getting stifled. They want their freedom. They want to meet friends, attend get to gathers, go around and be on their own for some time. That is not allowed by their so-called master/mistress.

This may break the relationship after sometime, resulting in great pain the in possessive lover. Why do people become possessive lovers? It must be some kind of a complex that makes them feel very afraid that some body will snatch away their beloved. Or they are equally worried that their darling may leave if given freedom. Possessive lovers feel insufficient in themselves. By possessing their lover, they feel having become complete. But this is not love that can give any joy. This is more like imprisoning the object of love.

Unless the possessive lover drops the defense and becomes open and more confident, there is no future for such relationships. They need to develop a different attitude. That should be to give joy to there object of love and not posses them.