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What Do Your Thoughts Add Up To?

 
Author: John Halderman
 

How do your thoughts add up? Do they point towards what you want or something else? Are they scattered or focused? Which thoughts are winning?

What you are thinking all day long is guiding you into tomorrow and your future. Is your future looking like you want it to?

"You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you." - James Allen

You have a choice about your thoughts, you can let them ramble along as they will or you can take command of them. Unfortunately letting them ramble on seems to default to the negative.

Why is this so when the universe is basically good? It is because of our free will. We can choose how to think and act.

In this regard life would be easier as a plant. Plants are guided to do what they are programmed to do. They don't know any better than to seek all they know. We humans on the other hand have this ability to choose about much of our existence.

But then there comes that responsibility thing. We are responsible for and subject to our thinking. Every thought is a request, asking the universe for something, which responds in like kind.

Years ago there was a descriptive concept related to this called "The cosmic waitress" The analogy is that whatever you ask the cosmic waitress, she brings. Each and every thought is your order and the universe/God delivers what you ordered.

So, if you are not seeing what you really want in your life, look to your thoughts. Develop the habit of noticing what you are thinking and specifically how you are reacting. A huge amount of your thoughts are wrapped up in habitual patterns that come about automatically, but they don't need to be allowed to.

Learning to take command of your thinking is your right and should be your desire if you want to grow and develop as you are intended. Thought command starts with noticing and catching your undesirable thoughts. Then analyzing them and deciding what thoughts would be a better fit with your desires.

There is no way to achieve a desire when the largest portions of your thoughts do not match the desire. Learn to switch this so that most thoughts DO support your desires.

Add them up at the end of the day. You can even calculate the time spent on each type of thoughts. It is really as simple as basic addition.

Another way to look at it is to visualize a double balance scale, the kind that has a pan on each side to place objects to compare to each other. Like a seesaw. Imagine placing the thoughts that are supportive to your cause on one side and the non-supportive thoughts on the other. Which side has more weight to it? Guess what you are getting. Even if it is even, you still don't the clarity of thought needed for good results.

The desired and supportive thoughts must heavily outweigh the other.

"Everything you are against weakens you. Everything you are for empowers you." -- Wayne Dyer

You can do something about this; you can change the type and quantity of thoughts you have throughout the day. It takes more than thinking about it once in a while. You will have much greater results with this or anything you are working on to change when you do something interactively with yourself rather than just occasionally thinking about it. Effecting change takes clearly directed effort over a period of time

Look at your thoughts, analyze them, adjust them, and replace them until you are supporting what you want with your thought, attitude and behavior.

What to do -

1-At the end of the day, get quiet, think about the day, write down your thoughts.

2-Ponder what you have noticed, compare against you deep desires, think about what and how you could do differently - write that down.

3-How did you react to things?

4-How did you treat other people?

5-Did you exhibit frustration?

6-Were you afraid?

7-Ask many questions of yourself.

8-Meditate or pray about them.

9-Decide what you could do differently to be the kind of person that supports your desires. What would you think and do?

10-Continue this, day by day you will get more perceptive about your thinking and behavior, eventually you will catch yourself doing something and them change your habitual behavior to that which you desire.

"Your mind will be like its habitual thoughts; for the soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts. Soak it then in such trains of thoughts as, for example: Where life is possible at all, a right life is possible." Marcus Aurelius

You must be wholly the kind of person who fully supports your desires. You must align yourself with the source of all and the specific attributes you intend to be involved with. If you do a lot of complaining or worrying, those are the attributes you are choosing.

Take charge of your personal development, do this now. Think carefully and choose right, it's all there for you.

"To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives." --Henry David Thoreau

"Whereas the average individuals "often have not the slightest idea of what they are, of what they want, of what their own opinions are," self-actualizing individuals have "superior awareness of their own impulses, desires, opinions, and subjective reactions in general." - - Abraham Maslow

"There is a great idea that you will encounter again and again on your quest: you are a living magnet, constantly drawing to you the things, the people, and the circumstances which are in accord with your thoughts. In other words, you are where you are in experience, in relationships, even in financial conditions, because of what you are (which is where you are in consciousness)." - - Eric Butterworth

 
 
 

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