Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual dysfunction in the under 40s. It is almost impossible to say under what time scale ejaculation can be classed as premature as it is largely dependent on how long it takes your partner to climax. Thus if the man can last for 10 minutes but his partner needs 15 then it stands to reason that he needs to learn to last for longer. The fact that female arousal and orgasm require more time than male arousal is being increasingly recognized, and this may result in increased recognition and definition of premature ejaculation as a problem.

It is thought that premature ejaculation is purely psychological with no known physical reason for early ejaculation. It is a controllable and the need to control it is largely dependent on how miserable early ejaculation makes an individual feel and how important prolonged love making is too their partner and their relationship. Most men tend to find that premature ejaculation is just an irritation which makes them come with the first couple of minutes of lovemaking with little sexual satisfaction for either partner.

Learning to control premature ejaculation is all about understanding your different levels of arousal and recognizing when you are close to your point of no return. Once you recognize how you feel when you are close to ejaculation and you understand what sexual activities get you that point quicker than others you will be at a stage where a few small changes to the way you make love will enable you to stay highly aroused, without ejaculating, for longer.

You want to learn to control premature ejaculation the natural way, taking drugs will just impair your self awareness and distract you while you working towards ejaculatory control. Making love isnt something you want to be masked with drugs, its something special, something sensual and something that should be enjoyed to the full.

The best sex is when men learn to think about lovemaking with their whole body and not just their penis. Its all about the complete arousal, the appreciation by every inch of the body. The early stages of lovemaking are equally as important as the last with the continual build of sexual tension just adding to the heightened and ultimate pleasure that controlling premature ejaculation can bring. You just need to learn that little step, to take your mind off the penis and concentrate on the complete unadulterated, sensual experience.

One little pointer in your quest for control is to use masturbation as a way of learning when you are about to ejaculate and how to control it. By varying how you caress your penis you can learn to understand all your stages of sexual arousal, understand when you have reached a point of no return and learn how to control premature ejaculation.