Case Surf.com
Index -> About Us -> Add Your Link -> Privacy of Info -> Terms & Conditions -> Submit Article
Search:   
 

Aching

Tears are my companions, in the dark realm where my thoughts dwell... - Kathy Pippig Harris
 

Happiness: Your Choice!

Contentment comes from within, and no amount of searching or material gain will lead you to blissful ... - Dave Ferruolo
 

Breaking Bonds

Direct Answers - Column for the week of March 8, 2004 I am just out of high school, and I have come ... - Wayne Mitchell and Tamara Mitchell
 
 

Premature Articulation

Do you suffer from premature articulation? Do your ideas get pinched by others at meetings? Are you ... - Gina Gardiner
 

Team Building in the Work Place

If you are looking for a way to develop team team work skills, there are a couple of ideas that have ... - Keith Londrie
 

Signs That Rage Has Turned Into An Addiction

All addictions have symptoms, which allow us to recognize these problems as addictive diseases. The ... - Newton Hightower
 

Leadership Captured in a Political Machine - Nu Leadership Series

Discuss how leaders can support man-machine systems so that they reinforce and strengthen organizati ... - Daryl Green
 

Success By Performing Without An Audience - Is Anyone Listening?

To achieve success it can be important to keep going even if no one seems to be appreciating or even ... - John Watson
 
 

Index » Self Help » Success Planning
 

Make Choices, Not Excuses

 
Author: Rachelle Disbennett-Lee
 

When you don't want to do something, it is very easy to make excuses. For some reason, excuses provide the illusion of getting you off the hook, or making it okay not to do whatever you committed to or planned to do. Excuses are, however, just excuses - not really a reason to not do what you said you would do. Instead of making excuses, make the choice. Excuses render you powerless, while choices are empowering. You can choose at anytime to do or not do whatever you're contemplating.

I signed up and paid for an event I was excited about attending. However, when the date drew near, I found myself making excuses as to why I didn't want to go. I had a lot of work; I had out-of-town company; I had a cold; the weather wasn't right - the list went on and on. When I stepped back and looked at the situation, I realized that I was in fear. I was afraid to attend the event. As exciting as it was, it was also scary. It was something I had never done before with people I didn't know in a place I had never been. The excuses were covering up the fear. Once I realized that, I made a choice to face the fear and go to the event. It felt good not to feel that I needed to hide behind an excuse.

Excuses are not the reason you don't want to do something. The excuses are the mask. Usually when excuses begin to fly, there is something else going on. For me, the excuses were covering up fear. Before you let the excuses stop you, figure out what they are trying to tell you. Once you know what is behind the excuses, you can make a choice to do or not do something. You'll be operating from truth and you won't have to hide behind an excuse.

Excuses are not the reason you don't want to do something. There is something else going on. Until you figure out what it is, the excuses will run you, and you will not be at a place to make a firm choice. When you find yourself making excuses, stop and ask yourself, "What am I afraid of?" Or, "What are the excuses trying to tell me?" By taking a step back and looking at the excuses from a different, more objective perspective, you can determine the reason the excuses are flying and then make a choice on what to do.

 
 
 

Related Articles

 
Managing The Stress In Your Life
 
Dell versus Hewlett Packard
 
Be a Star in Your Own Life
 
Reflections on a New Image
 
Loss Part Two: How are We Affected?
 
The Benefits of Having a Life Coach
 
How Much Money Do You Make?
 
Have You Forgotten How to Relax? Do Try These Methods at Home!
 
The Greatest Gift of All - The Gift of Empowerment
 
2 Super Techniques that Will Improve Your Life
 
 
 
Add Url
 

Computers & Software

News & Media

Sports & Adventure

Jobs & Careers

Academics & Education

Science & Space

Creative Arts

Self Help

Indoor Games

Hygiene & Health

Fashion & Relationships

Companies & Business

Estate & Realty

Society & Communities

Food & Recipe

Travel & Accommodation

Government & Politics

Children & Teens

Home Family & Garden

Medicine & Treatment

Online Shopping

Finance & Banking

Recreation

Automotive

 
Index -> Privacy of Info -> Terms & Conditions  
Copyright © 2008 www.casesurf.com All Rights Reserved.